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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Neither role gets done well. Lots of guilt on both ends. [/quote]

100%.  With some rare exceptions, if you want a successful career, your family life will suffer.  If you prioritize your family, your career suffers.  All the men VPs at my company have SAH wives.  The women are all either single or have a stay at home spouse or spouse with a lower level, flexible job.

Now that my kids are close to graduating HS, I regret all the time and effort I spent climbing the ladder at the expense of family time.  On the flip side, if I hadn’t done so, we would not have had the same lifestyle- the big house, private schools, etc.  If I had a do-over, I might have made different choices. [/quote]

When my kids hit late middle school/early high school, I quit.  We had enough money, my DH ramped up his work (and got bigger and bigger and more lucrative jobs, funny how that works) so that I could focus more on them and their activities.  They seemed to need me more as they go older, and my work involved A LOT of international travel.

I read a couple of articles/studies that showed when a woman reduces her workload or quits, it almost always benefits her husband's career.  Not so the other way around.  Interesting and says a lot about our corporate culture.[/quote]

DH and I earned around the same when we had our first child. His career also skyrocketed when I stopped working. He now earns millions.

We know many successful women. Some sound more impressive on paper. The women at the very top have husbands who are the default parent. These marriages don’t seem to work the same way having a SAHM does. The most successful women we know are divorced or in unhappy marriages where either the wife or husband or both are cheating. The dynamic of being a CEO with a SAHD emasculates the man and the weaker husband is unfortunately not respected by the wife or society.[/quote]

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