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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This happened to us. I was a wreck. We were hemorrhaging money because our expenses had gotten really high. But what I did was tell him he was amazing, that he can do anything he put his mind to, and it would work out. (All while freaking out inside and worried he would never get another job and we'd go broke.) He needed to not feel desperate in interviews. He needed to feel confident and powerful. After he got the new, better job, he thanked me for believing in him and not freaking out.

It was a bad break, completely not his fault. And he has always supported me and our kids. He deserved to have strong support behind him. [/quote]

So glad it worked out. Thanks for sharing.[/quote]

It did. I was talking to a friend last week about how I was sure we were ruined. I'd get in the car and drive to run errands by myself and cry. And now his career is now better than ever. But I never showed him my worry. I was surprised that I could be that strong. But I did it for him and our kids. No question it's scary, OP. But if you can help him you will be proud of yourself that you could be so strong. I worry that you are saying he is ruining your lives. That is a lot of pressure and blame. [/quote]

I was strong like that and supporive the first 6-8 months. But as more time has gone by and prospective jobs dont make offers, it has taken more and more of a toll. When I say that it's ruining our life, Im not just talking about me. This situation has ruined his life individually.[/quote]

I know this is expensive, but what about a career coach in his industry. I know a couple of people who have done this when things weren't going well. Turned things around. It seems to be part therapy, part how best to deal with situations, part how to present better. But I know this is hard when you're already dipping into savings. I think the most helpful to both was the therapy part, delving into what was getting in their way in interviewing. Your DH clearly gets interviews. What is getting in the way of him getting the jobs?

You may have answered this, but can you step up your own career? (You're a teacher??)

Big hugs, OP. I know it is hard. [/quote]

Thank you. Thanks to lots of helpful suggestions here, I have suggested to him to look a a career or interview coach. Im hoping he does. Yes, I have been spending all my free time (other than tonight) applying to higher paying jobs and supplemental work.[/quote]

Applying to jobs is fine but you need to tap your network.  Ask around/ talk to friends and family and let them know you are also looking for a new job/side gig/ whatever.

The last person I hired it was due to a network.  Three people in my network flagged this person was interested in the role and I told them we were starting interviews so she needed to apply that day.  She did, looked great, brought her in and she got the job. If the network hadn't told me/recommended her and I had not told them she needed to apply right away I might have missed her application because the process would have started or HR would have flagged her out, who knows.

Your husband could also substitute teach for the rest of the year and apply for roles after.  Subs make pretty decent $ and he might be able to apply for roles on off periods/during the day.  [/quote]

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