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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How do your employees who don't have children and won't be having any feel?  Do they get anything?[/quote]

Just the dubious distinction of being a 'team,player" doing the work of PAPs--Pregnant American Princesses--and receiving no extra compensation for doing the PAP's jobs while they take six months to bond with their offspring and complain about the difficulties of motherhood.

Doing the extra work does not end when the new mothers return to the office as they now need time to pump milk for the new crown princes/princesses as well as taking off more time for medical appointments coming in late and leaving early and spending inordinate hours on the telephone dictating orders to nannies or watching their prodigy sleep at daycare.

Those who, again, take up their slack still receive no extra compensation for doing two jobs!  Resentment? You bet![/quote]

Look - I get it. I was the 30 year old woman who had no PTO at a new job and was constantly covering for the parents at work who made twice my salary and I felt resentful. Years later I became a parent myself and I had a rude awakening about how hard it is to work and be a parent and how badly I needed the coverage I used to resentfully provide to others.

Just know this - the arc of life is long, and no one is immune from its challenges or suffering during their working years. Someday, you will need someone to cover you and pick up the slack. Maybe you’ll get cancer, or injured in a car accident, or break a hip, or get diagnosed with a chronic condition you’ve never heard of that requires treatment, time off and specialists. Or maybe your mom or dad will, or your brother will get in a car accident and become disabled, or you’ll have to become a caregiver to an elderly family member with dementia, or you’ll become disabled unexpectedly or have a mental health breakdown or need time off for a surgery, rehab, therapy, physical therapy, chemo, radiation, your dog will get sick, or your parent will become incontinent and end up in a nursing home after a stroke and the care will be awful and you’ll be torn between caring for them and working. Or you’ll need surgery or medical leave or a mental health break or some circumstance will arise that makes you a vulnerable human who needs PTO and not a capitalist robot who constantly produces. And you will be in the opposite position you are now and you’ll feel like a jerk, because the very people you were angry about who you covered for will now be the people you need help from to cover for you.

What I mean by this, is that everyone who works long enough has a time in their life when they need coverage from colleagues due to life circumstances. And your employer may not pay those employees for doing it, and you’ll know they are covering for you and feel badly about it and yet have zero control over their fair compensation. This is just life. So be a good sport, because someday you’ll be on the other side of the table and the world will look very different, and building goodwill from your colleagues instead of being an angry troll will pay dividends when the shoe is on the other foot. [/quote]

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