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[quote=Anonymous]It's both east kids and the reactions of parents I think.  You simply can't fight nature first and foremost. As hard as you try to screw up a good person you won't be able to. Ditto as much as you try to help a difficult kid, you may never succeed. I believe in being wired a certain way and that's your course. However, the way you react to situations can be managed and in some ways modify behavior. Destiny remains so you can only do so much and more importantly, you can choose how to proceed and your perspective of what it means.  Sometimes that influence will mean something to another person.  You never really know.  It's so arbitrary and random.

I tend to think that people change their habits and not their nature and a kid at 6 will be different from 12 to 20 to 33.  Their processes and interests and emotions and luck - all changing.  You can't say a 15 yr old difficult kid will always be a difficult adult.  But their nature will prob be the same.  I think this is what you inherit from your parents - nature.

So it's important to distinguish between nature and habits.  My 2 kids are very different and my experience is with 2, one is always totally different than the other.  In every one of my family with 2 kids, they have all been really nice 2, but totally different paths in terms of success and interests.  These are cousins who are now in 30s.  One always more successful/stable/social than the other but both always same natures in terms of kindness and presentation. [/quote]

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