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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s hard for these kids who had a critical time in high school marred by COVID.  My dd is having a good, not great, college experience.  She didn’t get into the sororities she wanted at a school with high Greek participation.  Not the end of the world, but pretty impactful for a super social kid.  She did join a service oriented coed fraternity.  She belongs to pre med club.

Of her two best friends freshman year, one transferred and another was lost to an abusive romantic relationship (moved to a single when suite mates objected to problematic boyfriend always sleeping over and is now socially isolated with him).  Third friend dropped out due to poor academic performance.

Despite all this, she has formed another core friend group and has been dating someone at school for over a year (she’s a sophomore).  Going abroad in the fall and has an interesting summer experience planned. She is happy but it isn’t the college experience she had hoped for.[/quote]

Your last sentence is accurate for my son’s experience. [/quote]

[b]Kids have a skewed idea about what college is like due to the fakeness of social media. We all know it can be lonely and hard the first year[/b]. My DD did not get into a top sorority and that was a huge blow. Popular, smart, kind and really pretty. Almost transferred. Stuck it out and is happy 2 years later. But still has a sadness about Greek life because 100% of her friends and roommates are in sororities. She says she has PTSD from rush and getting dropped on the last night. [/quote]

This. I really emphasized with my kids that it's normal for freshman year to be hard. They've known my college BFF since they were little and I let them know we didn't even meet until junior year. It takes time, effort, patience.[/quote]

+1. There’s a lot of peer pressure amongst kids (and parents) to display or communicate that they’re having a magical college experience. Things like Instagram make it worse. That’s not the reality for most. It takes time, patience and effort. I loved my college experience but it took some time to find my people and activities. I warned my ‘24 kid that it’s not going to be all roses and that there will be adjustments. They seemed to enjoy their first year but they did have to deal with things like being rejected from student clubs, competitive nature of the students, etc.[/quote]

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