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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Parent of 16, 14 and 12 yo here. OP should wait until late ES or MS to dial back. It's actually very useful when kids are younger to have childcare for the younger siblings and a flexible job. It was more difficult for SAH parents who had a young child at home to volunteer because they had to either tag along or the parent had to find a sitter for them. It's also not that hard to plan out the summer during the ES years. There are a million camp options or summer nannies to choose from. Now, I do admit my older DCs were in ES school in FCPS before they started having so many days off. It would have been more difficult to deal with a calendar like the one for next year with multiple 4 and 5 day weekends.

I started reducing my hours when my oldest was in MS. She had a few after school activities and needed picked up at 3:30 or 4:00. Then she was playing a fall sport at high school, with practices starting at the beginning of August, the younger sibling was in MS, and youngest was into a travel sport. There were a lot of schedules to coordinate that couldn't have happened if I was in the office from 9-5.

[b]These are the years that I think really matter since they're the last few you have before launching them into college[/b]. While I'm not a SAHP, most of my work hours align with the school schedule now. This is definitely not the time I'd be wanting to go back to work if I had scaled back while they were in ES.[/quote]

Curious why you think the HS years matter the most. I mean, of course they do and teens need to be able to talk about college choices etc. but they’ll be in school and after school activities most of the day. Is it that important that you not work and stay home waiting for them to come back at night?[/quote]

I think high school years matter most, but not in the DCUM thinks they matter. DCUM likes the older years because if a parent doesn’t work, they have more control over their child’s portfolio to get into college.

I think it matters because that’s what kids remember. I had decent parents as a younger child, but high school they let their egos and keeping up with the Joneses get in the way. I excelled (tbh, I would have anyway) but only in the areas they let me pursue (ie, classical music and not sports or other activities).

In addition, they were physically and verbally abusive and it ruined our relationship forever. Because I was older, that is what I remember most about high school. [/quote]

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