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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I absolutely wouldn't force them.  TJ isn't for everyone and if the kid isn't fully in you are setting yourself up for failure.  Most kids will still excel at their local school.[/quote]

Some posters here will say things like Don't go but it's not because they believe this, [b]but to create waitlist movement[/b]. I'd try to understand the students reasons for reluctance to better evaluate this. [/quote]

The waitlist for the class of 2029 does not exist at this time because offers have not been made at this time.

Why are you making up ridiculous conspiracy theories? [/quote]

... Assuming you're posting this in bad faith because no one who birthed a child capable of admission to TJ would actually be stupid enough to not understand this.

Their goal is to get parents and kids to decide *now* that they will not accept their offer of admission when granted, so that when they end up on the waitlist, there will be a ton of early movement and their child will have a shot at being called up to the big leagues.[/quote]

This requires a parent to (1) assume that their kid would not get in (2) that their kid is put on a waitlist (3) their post on DCUM would impact enough people to opt out of admission to TJ and (4) that spot would open up to their kid.

Do you understand the probabilities involved? This level of conspiracy belongs in tin foil hat territory, but it looks like we have found one nut job.

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Of course I understand the probabilities involved. It takes a dedicated parent a few seconds to put together a few posts that might give their kid a sliver of hope if they needed it. Not exactly a heavy lift.[/quote]

I would throw this right back at you. Perhaps you’re encouraging uninterested kids accept admission so your kid does better once there. Who knows? All I know is if a kid isn’t passionate about these subjects and also bored at the hi chest level in their current school, I would not push a kid to go.

I know many kids who were pushed into TJ specifically and the results are all over the place as adults. Multiple dont talk to their parents, others went in a completely non-STEM direction when they probably wouldn’t have otherwise, others are in STEM fields they don’t care about at all, still trying to please family. There are others who are very happy with where they are, in STEM, but those are the kids the school is for - they love STEM. Only you know your kid, but if the passion AND ability aren’t there, it’s the wrong choice. My priority is raising happy kids who know how to set boundaries. [/quote]

There is one reality that should overcome every single consideration and, quite frankly, end the discussion with regard to kids and families who are unsure. And it's this:

If you try it and hate it, you can always go back to your base school and the impact on the rest of your academic career will be negligible - but you'll have the peace of mind in knowing that it wasn't the right thing because you actually gave it a shot.

If you decline the offer of admission but realize afterward that doing so was a huge mistake, you have no recourse to then pivot and go to TJ.

Realistically, you'll know within a month if it's something that your family can handle and whether it's the right thing for you. So go to Preview Night when you're invited, get a sense of the place, if you're still unsure then give it a shot.

A lot of people will try to oversell you on the negative impacts of trying TJ and heading back to your base school - there is virtually zero risk whatsoever. But there's huge risk in declining the offer and never giving it a shot.[/quote]

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