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[quote=Anonymous]NP here.  OP, I completely understand where you’re coming from.  DH, kids and I moved from out of state to a local drive of my parents to be near them, and even with the close proximity and seeing each other regularly, there is very little interest in our and our kids’ lives.  Some people become increasingly self-absorbed as they get older.  What I’ve noticed talking to friends is that the grandparents who are interested in their kids’ and grandkids’ lives are the ones who were engaged and interested parents.  The things you’ve said about your mom make me think she was probably not the most attentive and selfless parent when you were younger, so her behavior is in line with her past self.  I know from experience that this realization doesn’t make it better though.  I recommend you come to terms with your parents’ lack of interest and think about whether you want this to change your relationship with them.

Another thing I’ll add is that I’ve been very honest with my mom about my feelings about certain of her behaviors (not this one though) and while it may not have led to an aha! Moment on her part, or improved relations between us, it did allow me to justify some of the boundaries I set for her and make my life easier on the margin.  So maybe some honesty about your feelings is something you may want to use down the road as well.[/quote]

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