Reply to People who were raised in a “partner comes first” household

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "People who were raised in a “partner comes first” household"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As an Asian American, I was raised to see marriage and children as intertwined. Almost like what’s the point of getting married if you don’t have children? So, exactly the opposite of the OP’s subject line. There is something about “partner comes first” that seems a little creepy to me, honestly.

P.S. Not speaking for all Asian Americans. [/quote]

I'm not Asian American, rather an American WASP, [b]but I think WASPs also have this mentality[/b] (same reason why there's not a ton of sappiness and PDA among WASP parental couples, and some tolerance of cheating). It honestly seems strange, and a bit childish, to me when married couples with kids prioritize each other over the children. To me, the children are the whole point. [/quote]
 
No way. Traditional WASPS love to have a good time. This means a heavy usage of babysitters and nannies. You can count on a wealthy WASP to socialize with only adults and enjoy a childfree evening. Boarding schools and summer camps remain popular.  [/quote]

Regardless the children are still prioritized over the parental relationship. Often skilled nannies are employed and kids are sent to the best boarding schools "for their own good". Very few WASP couples do this weird performative "my wife is my best friend" dance and it's understood that one or both partners might have affairs or go on vacation to a second home in another state or something... I literally dont know any WASPs who drone on about how their partner is the love of their life or whatever. It's kind of a business relationship for the purpose of having kids, in many ways. And it's interesting that both WASPs and Eastern Asians are two of the most successful ethnic groups in the United States- focusing on children's success over your own relationship seems like it works out fairly well. [/quote]

“Works out well” financially if divorce is too shameful to speak of, let alone do.  [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics