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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mother died when I was 6 and she was 34.  My husband and I adopted our son when I was 48 and he was 51.  Yes, we will be old when he graduates high school.  We spent many years in fertility treatments.  Life doesn’t always work out the way we plan.

FTR:  We are way more active with him than many of the parents of his friends.  Our son does the normal sports stuff.  We also spend much of the winter skiing with him.  We do other activities like ropes courses, zip lines.  We hike a lot as a family. My husband and I keep ourselves in shape and do the best we can to eat well.  We also keep up with our regular check ups.

I could be hit by a bus tomorrow or I could live until 104 like my grandfather. [/quote]
There is actually some data saying that older parents tend to live longer than people who had kids earlier. My sister had her child at 49. If I am being honest, I am feeling old at 54, with adult kids.
Though I am not saying these last couple of years have been rough for my sister, and a part of me sees OP's point when looking at my sister. She had a huge cancer scare two months after her child was born. But she is doing well now. (If we could get rid of the loser BIL, as now that they have a child, it is truly sad to see how lazy and incompetent he always was. It was better when they had no child to raise, to just say, oh well, he has my sister working so it is ok, but holly molly, she has cancer, and he is not even looking for work! He is not even helping with their child now, at all, and he was the one who wanted the child.)[/quote]

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