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[quote=Anonymous]I get the impulse to want your kid to feel supported and there are circumstances where living at home to help meet a financial goal makes sense, but a super important part of being a parent is making sure your kids can not just stand alone on their own, but thrive.

At a minimum, I think letting a kid stay at home requires some sort of rent -- even a token amount, and refunding it when they move out is legit -- if only to teach them about financially supporting themselves. It would be bad parenting to have a 28 year old who had never paid for anything themselves.

Also, I get the impulse of wanting to keep kids close because you love them, but the fact I love my kids so much means that I want them to go wherever makes them happy -- if that's down the street from me, great! If that's Nepal, great! It would break my heart not to see them, but it would be extremely selfish to do anything to keep them from going to Nepal if that's what they want and what's best for them.

I'd rather my kids feel nudged out the door to go make their own way than stay coddled where I can enjoy having them around, but they don't live up to their very best selves. [/quote]

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