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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Get an apartment near your house and live there with your mother. You can still spend a lot of time at your family home with your wife. [/quote]

This is 100% what I'd tell my DH to do.  He and his sister could trade off.  But there is NO WAY I'd let one of his parents move into our home.  One is anxiety ridden and one is insanely critical.  Neither are flexible.  [b]I'd be fine if that meant he needed to spend less time with me to care for them.[/b]  But *I* will not be doing their care.

My parents are much easier people, and I still would not move them in either.  So there's that.[/quote]

It wouldn't just be less time with you.   If your MIL needed 24/7 care and your Dh and sister in law were doing it all, trading off shifts, your Dh would be forced to quit his job.   Would you be fine without his income and any benefits (health insurance, retirement, etc.) his job brings to your household?
Do you have kids?   Even if the kids are older and you don't need him to care for the kids, would you be fine with him missing out on family vacations?   Milestone events like graduations, weddings, etc?

What if SIL said no, she's not doing it?    You can't force her.    You can't force her to pay for any expenses either.[/quote]

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