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[quote=Anonymous]I had two long-term boyfriends who were liars in different ways.  One was what I would call an "embellisher" -- he would tell small lies to make a story better.

The other was a sociopathic liar (and his psychiatrist actually told me he was a sociopath).  He made up long lies that were completely fictional and stuck to them for years.

What did I learn from this?  A liar cannot be a reliable partner.  Cut them off at the first lie, and you will save yourself a lot of heartache.  There are no excuses for lies.  At the time I thought "I love him."  But, later I realized that a liar by the nature of lying is presenting an artfully manipulated picture of themselves, and the person I "loved" did not really exist. Any feelings I had were nurtured by the closeness of sex not the real love that comes from a mutual partnership of honesty and support.

And, believed surely they would learn a lesson from being caught in a lie and forgiven.  No.  That is not how a liar works.

I myself am very honest and not afraid of telling the truth - perhaps because I am not afraid of being without a man or a friend.  Living with someone who lies frequently is disorienting and unsafe.  Get out ASAP. [/quote]

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