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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The estranged sibling is trying to make it all about herself. Whether she’s innocent or guilty we’ll never know. What we do know that she’s telling herself the kids need her, when right now they barely know her. Maybe? So let them call her, or even let them start a relationship when they move out or go to college.

Or maybe the kids have other adults in their lives, like their dad or other aunts or uncles, and estranged sister is really surplus to the case. She’s fooling herself about her role when it’s really about her own neediness.

What’s sick is that estranged sister has no compunction about putting the kids right in the middle. Estranged siblings is asking the kids to defy their mother by enjoying the presents, or to pretend they don’t really care about the presents when they’re in front of their mother. That’s cruel. [/quote]

Are you my mother?..

This is the exact kind of manipulative BS she would spew . 
 Glad my aunt sent us cards and gifts.

My siblings and I didn't think too much of it as kids it was just another gift except mom would sulk and get pouty if we happened to like it

But mom would often sulk and point. She also had a list of people who were supposed to like, interestingly as I got older I noticed that these people would change and drop out of our lives with vague explanation from mom. They just weren't good people. Took me until I was 25 and decided I wanted to do something different with my life than what my mom decided that I realized being a good person or someone she included in her circle meant she has to have complete control.

Interestingly in the years since I've started forming a relationship with my aunt she's never spoken and I'll word about my mother.[/quote]

What about “let the kids decide whether to initiate a relationship” is manipulative? In fact, it sounds like the gifts and your mother’s reactions actually did make child-you uncomfortable. Which was my whole point. Sorry about your relationship with your mother, but it’s really besides the point here, the point being whether an aunt has a right to make a child uncomfortable by putting them in the middle. Also, whether or not this applies to you, you’re not the entire world (believe it or not), and some of the aunts here may be trying to manipulate with presents with no concern about how this puts the child in the middle. Also, it really isn’t savior behavior if the nieces and nephews already have a father or other aunts or uncles closer by, and they don’t need auntie.

Again, let the nieces and nephews decide whether they need auntie in their lives. [/quote]

You keep proving me right that you are the toxic abusive person.[/quote]

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