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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know there are people who think my only child is coddled. I grew up in a big family and was not coddled at all -- as an adult and parent, I now think I was borderline neglected. Not on a "call CPS" level but to a degree where I have a lot of dysfunctional behaviors from having had to take care of myself from a very young age. I think I would have benefitted from getting to just be a kid for more of my childhood and not have so many responsibilities and not be expected to already be competent at certain things at such a young age. I had to get myself up, dressed, and fed, and then get myself to school on my own, starting in 1st grade. And I did it -- kids are capable of a lot. But I look at that now and am like "whoa what a weird experience for a 6 year old -- it would have been really nice for me to have had more parental involvement at that age."

I still work to make sure my kid is self-sufficient, but I don't push it and I'm more than happy to be present and supportive for her as long as I need to be. I want her to feel loved and supported. And I intend to continue to help and support when she's an adult. There is a line (I'm not writing her college term papers or something), but I think it's normal and healthy for families to support each other. I think my childhood experience was too far in the other extreme and that some part of me will always be a little screwed up because of it. There needs to be a happy medium.[/quote]

There is one mom who takes all the notes for her kid and makes flash cards for her kid to study before tests. She controls every aspect of her daughter’s life.

I think it is fine to love your child. Of course. We all do. There is a fine line of when it is excessive. These families have the time and resources to over indulge with support. It is like they can’t take the training wheels off. I guess the kids will eventually be on their own when they go to college.[/quote]

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