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[quote=Anonymous]I know there are people who think my only child is coddled. I grew up in a big family and was not coddled at all -- as an adult and parent, I now think I was borderline neglected. Not on a "call CPS" level but to a degree where I have a lot of dysfunctional behaviors from having had to take care of myself from a very young age. I think I would have benefitted from getting to just be a kid for more of my childhood and not have so many responsibilities and not be expected to already be competent at certain things at such a young age. I had to get myself up, dressed, and fed, and then get myself to school on my own, starting in 1st grade. And I did it -- kids are capable of a lot. But I look at that now and am like "whoa what a weird experience for a 6 year old -- it would have been really nice for me to have had more parental involvement at that age."

I still work to make sure my kid is self-sufficient, but I don't push it and I'm more than happy to be present and supportive for her as long as I need to be. I want her to feel loved and supported. And I intend to continue to help and support when she's an adult. There is a line (I'm not writing her college term papers or something), but I think it's normal and healthy for families to support each other. I think my childhood experience was too far in the other extreme and that some part of me will always be a little screwed up because of it. There needs to be a happy medium.[/quote]

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