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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]FWIW, safe sport guidelines…

Coaches should avoid having athletes as their favorites. They should also avoid creating a
situation that could be perceived as them having favorites.

Gift-giving, providing special favors or showing favoritism to individual athletes is strongly
discouraged.[/quote]

This is a piece of safe sport I think is narrow and short sighted. There are situations, especially when a club coach also has swimmers/families at summer swim where they are like family. I think there is a difference between a coach who is a creep and coach who grew up two doors down and is a close family friend. [/quote]

Like Rick Curl? Same pattern of practices if the OP contention is true. (From an NCAP-Burke parent)[/quote]

Connect the dots for me please because I'm not following.  Coach spending time with parents--not alone with kids--equates to the 4 year sexual abuse of a minor like Curl did?  What [i]specific[/i] pattern of practices are going on here that are impermissible and violate safe sport?  I don't see a plane ride with the parents as being a pattern of impermissible activities.  Safe sport is all about power imbalance which isn't present here.  [/quote]
DP. Coach ingratiating himself with a family to the point that the family considers him a personal friend. Because the family considers this person a personal family friend and not just their child’s coach, they think nothing of their child spending time alone with the coach. The dots are not that hard to connect.[/quote]

The missing dots are the child spending time alone with the coach.  This is a ride in a plane with the family. Stop imagining scenarios of impropriety. [/quote]
Are you really this obtuse? What people are saying is this is the type of chumminess between the family of a swimmer and a coach that can lead to a blurring of the boundaries between personal and professional and provide opportunity for an inappropriate relationship to go undetected. I’m not affiliated with either Tuckahoe or York and the optics of this are just not good in this day and age. I’m the parent of a teen female swimmer and our coaches do not try to engender a friendship with the parents for this very reason. [/quote]

Chumminess is prohibited. Got it.  We'll make sure to cancel parents bringing coffee and breakfasts to the coaches for appreciation days throughout the summer.  We'll also be sure to shun the coach if we see him at the pool with his family.

Let's not lose sight of what is actually occurring here:  a family offering a coach a ride.  Nothing more.[/quote]
You mean appreciation days that all families are given the opportunity to participate in? I know you are being deliberately obstinate because you are probably affiliated in some way with this coach, but you do know there is a lot of space in between shunning and inviting a coach to travel to a meet on your private plane. I’m just saying that none of my child’s coaches would have accepted an offer from a swimmer’s family to hitch a ride to a travel meet on  their private plane because it’s not a good look. [/quote]

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