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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would ask the children. I was about 7 when my grandmother died. I was asked if I wanted to go and said no. It felt good to have the power to make this decision, even though it felt strange to be the only one who didn’t go.

I’ve attended funerals as an adult since then and there are a couple of images in my head I wish I didn’t have, but at the same time it is part of life.

Just let them make the decision.[/quote]

I vote let them decide.  [b]Personally, I dislike funerals[/b]. I don’t find them to provide any peace or closure- rather they are sad and awkward.  And open casket, no way.  Seeing someone I knew and cared for lifeless with face paint on in a box is not closure for me[/quote]

I don’t think anyone [i]likes[/i] funerals, PP. they are not meant to be something you “like”; that’s really not the point. [/quote]

Ok.  I don’t find them comforting or necessary for grieving. Better? [/quote]

I don’t think most people find funerals “comforting” either. It’s a time to grieve with others who also knew the deceased. It’s a time to celebrate the life of the deceased. Grief often isn’t comfortable so I wouldn’t really expect a funeral to be comforting.

Now if you don’t find funerals necessary for your grieving process/prefer to grieve privately or whatever that’s different.

I just take issue with those who propose skipping funerals bc you don’t like them or they make you uncomfortable. Death is part of life and we all must deal with it at some point, whether we feel comfortable or not.[/quote]

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