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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We told the kids in HS, dad moved to the guest room.

They watched dad go to therapy and become a better person over those years. That showed it had nothing to do with them, it was  good learning experience to have empathy for someone who has PTSD.

When the youngest went to college it was actually 2020 and the building of my ex's new house was stalled due to supply chain so it wasn't ready until 2021.

We never had the kids go to the "other house" ... their dad came to our house to see them or we met at a restaurant. We still do all holidays together at the family home, we still visit them together and separate depending on why we are visiting.

They will occasionally go to his house but it's rare.

Their biggest concern was will we sell the family home and we decided we won't do that until they all graduate and then some. [/quote]

Are either you or your ex re-partnered? When I hear of divorced couples that still spend holidays together in the family home it always makes me wonder how that works. For context, I dated a man who did this after his divorce. (met him 10 years after the divorce so I was not the AP). It was, in retrospect, a huge red flag regarding his enmeshment with his ex-wife and lack of boundaries. Not saying that at all about you. Just curious about how the experience was for you.[/quote]

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