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[quote=Anonymous]Okay, lots of issues, but some solutions.

Your issues: you sound picky yourself (why no fish, pork or turkey?), and maybe not the best cook. On the other hand you are doing the work and willin o try!

His issues: picky, critical and unwilling to do the work, only criticize.

finally--do not have kids with someone who is 'uninterested' in cooking. It will not work unless there's enough money to outsource it all.But its not realistic or fair otherwise to expect one person to continually be responsible for feeding a family.

I would have a serious talk about this. To me, his choices are learn to cook together, and come up with recipes you both like, expand your palettes a little bit, and share the responsibility.  If he is unwilling to cook or learn, he has no business criticizing you.  And if he cannot see how this dynamic sucks, including springing this on you as soon as you get married, then pls ensure you are using birth control and do marriage counseling, because its possible he has whole other list of things he will demand of you that he has been holding back.

Finally, it is okay to not love everything about your partner. but this kind of unconstructive criticism early on--when he also expects you to cook!--is a red flag. My husband is frankly not a great cook. However, I really need him to take on the burden sometimes and appreciate when dinner is made forme. He has mastered a half dozen go to dinners  and does pretty much all the grocery shopping. The other and most important rule is that we do not criticize each other's cooking. We may express whether we liked a particular dish more or less than others, but not in a critical/you need to change way. I also found that doing a kit (my favorite was sun basket--fresh, interesting and far less repetitive than our 'go to' meals) was  a good way to expand our repertoire and esp give him some autonomy and responsibiity in the kitchen.  [/quote]

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