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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm judgy about married couples that maintain separate finances. [/quote]

Why?  My DH and I have been happily married for 20 years.  When we met I had been working for a few years and had my own money.  It felt like compromising my independence to share everything.  I certainly didn’t want him going over my credit card bills.  Perhaps o was jaded given the experience some women in my family had with over controlling husbands.  Anyway, years went by, we consider all of our money “ours” and one or the other pays for things as they come up, big expenses we tend to split.  There is no accounting of who paid what.  It works for us.  That being said we make somewhat similar salaries.[/quote]

It sounds less like you both keep separate finances and more like neither of you are particularly interested in managing your finances, so you never really cleaned them up. 
 
DH and I did this for a couple of years when we were first married.  I finished residency before he did, so my income became 8 times what his was, and we merged.  If that hadn’t happened, we probably would have stayed separate indefinitely.  
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