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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So basically the question is: "My teen has already experienced the loss of their intact family. How can I withdraw a lot of my time, energy, and resources, and also make them live with a new partner and a baby, and have them be happy with it?"

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How would it be different than an "intact" family having more kids.  With every kid a parent has it takes away attention and resources.[/quote]

Because the remarriage effectively disinherits the kid. Sorry, but it's true. [/quote]

No, it doesn't, less the kids don't have a relationship with one parent and that parent appropriatly chooses not to leave them anything.  No one is entitled to inherit anything.  My sister convinced my parents to leave her everything.  We are equally comfortable.  It was just pure greed and selfish behavior on all three of them.  My parents put all their effort into her.  After I realized what they were all doing and stopped contact, my life was much better.

If a parent remarries, anything before marriage should be split among all the kids.  Anything post marriage - between the husband and wife, it should be split in half and each adult decide who gets the inheritance from their half.

If you choose to not allow your kids to have a relationship with their other parent, you should not expect any inhertance.
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1. Alot of people would say you're the evil step mom if you don't put cinderella in the pot as an equal partner 
2. What happens when the second wife is the one to care for the man as he ages, changes his diapers, takes him to all the Dr. appointments? Yet the man has adult children and grandchildren? How do you split the inheritance? What if she is living in a family house he inherited from his family? Do her kids get a part of the house? This woman could have been care giving for 20 years.

Re-marriage complicates things immensely [/quote]

What if the second wife has fun with him and his money while he's retired and then dumps him on the adult kids when he's old and sick, walking off with half the assets?

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You assume there is a relationship and kids are willing.

My husband came into the marriage with nothing.  I paid for the wedding, honeymoon and more to get us started.  He’s made up for it since then but his kids were grown and out of college before we had any money.  We’ve been married twice as long as he was to his ex, really longer than that.  We’ll be married at least 40 years.  If they want money from us if there is any, that hoes by relationship.  You don’t earn it by being born.

I didn’t get anything get from my parents. They choose my sibling.  Technically I should have gotten something but she stole it all.  It was their money and if they wanted me to have something they would have.  They hadn’t given me or my kids a dime ever, not even gifts for my kids from the dollar tree.  No big deal.

It is greedy to expect an inheritance and if the second marriage is a long one and half her money, it should not be taken from her to give to his kids.  And, our kids are minors so any minor kids should be the priority through grad school. [/quote]

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