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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think men have learned that any confrontation or argument can and will be used against them hence its better to pause and mute. [/quote]

OP here. That is fine. I guess my best bet is allow him to lead this but he has lead everything in my life. I got pregnant, because he did not want another, he advised an abortion. I did it. I got a great job offer but [b]he did not want me to take it because I would be around a male dominant environment, so I did not take it[/b]. This is just a few examples where he leads and I have no say. Our children's education, same thing.... this argument and all the others, he leads and decides when we can and can not talk about it. Yes I need therapy but I also need a husband.[/quote]

WTAF?
I mean, seriously, WTAF?[/quote]

Taken at face value, OP is in a very unequal relationship where he dominates and she just submits to his will. When he gets challenged (i.e., disagreements arise) he withdraws completely for days.

This is not a tenable relationship. It's fundamentally abusive and has a lopsided power structure.  [/quote]

I see a pattern when she dominates and he has to withdraw to protect himself. He even used that word.
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Good point; she says she needs him to tell her he loves her, but he doesn’t feel like she’s showing that she loves him. Hence his need to protect himself first, deal with conflict later. [/quote]

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