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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I met DH when I was 24, got engaged at 27, married at 29 and had 3 kids in my thirties. Now that I’m older, I wish I had kids earlier. I had my third child at almost 40. I will be in my seventies when I am a grandmother.

I have some acquaintances who are in their mid to late fifties and their kids are getting married young. They will be grandmothers by age 60.[/quote]

It's not about age.  It's about when you are in a healthy, loving relationship[/quote]

I would think most people agree with this. The point is that you probably shouldn’t spend your 20s like the earlier poster who justified being old because she spent her 20s having casual sex and partying too much. Maybe one should…not do that. [/quote]

Could not disagree more. Partying, traveling, and having fun in my 20s gave me the security to settle down in my 30s and feel totally peaceful about giving a few years really committing to motherhood. I did it all, had a very full and exciting life with lots of experiences and memories to draw on when I’m sitting in the dark rocking a screaming baby for hours a day. Had I not spent those years having fun and exploring I bet I’d feel super trapped and unfulfilled by the hard early childhood years.

I had mine at 33 and 37. The right age is whenever you feel you’re done with the first phase of your life and excited about the second. It’s different for everyone.[/quote]

I 100% agree with this. Those memories are what kept me sane many times. Even now that I am 40 and my kids are in elementary school sometimes it’s still hard and I think back about that one trip, that one brunch, that one night, etc. I am not American and started early with the partying/traveling, etc. so I ended up having my kids sort of “young” (29, 31, 34). I wish I had my last a little earlier because the first few years of having a 6, 4 and 6 months old were hard for a while. My kids were in very different phases and the last baby was left out a lot. Now that they are in elementary school it’s much better![/quote]

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