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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How old are you? Do you want kids?

If you want a life of equally shared parenting (that was my goal) then, roughly, you each can work a max of about 40 hours a week. MAYBE 45. So I wouldn't marry him without some serious discussions about if/when/how he would step back when the kids came. And without some real solid answers, I'd be out.

If I didn't want kids I wouldn't care. [/quote]

I’m 28 and we plan to have 2-4 kids.

His job won’t allow for him to work 40 hours a week. [/quote]

You need to have a serious discussion about what will be involved in parenting and household maintenance and who is going to do what.  If the "two of you" agree that you are going to SAHM, you need to discuss what kind of support you will get - nanny, housekeeping, time off for yourself, whether and when you will work at all, and I would have a very good pre-nup that makes it clear that if you ever divorce for any reason, you will get alimony (I would ask for 1 year of alimony for every year as SAHM, child support as a specified percentage of income, who pays for college, medical and activities, and who will have physical custody.

SAHMing is not a decision to take lightly and no one should simply trust their financial future to their partner.

These are hard convos to have and if your partner is unwilling or you get a vibe that you are being unreasonable or a gold-digger, the time to end things is now. [/quote]

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