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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The sexism, it's real. Thanks for confirming what every mom on this board already knew, teachers![/quote]

There can be a lot of internalized misogyny in female dominated professions.

I love that DH handles the parent teacher conferences and teacher communications. He is definitely the more confrontational of the two of us but if the teachers prefer to get direction from a man and my kids’ needs are met and I don’t have to go, I’m good with that.  [/quote]

I think these attitudes are more prevalent at the elementary school level. The teachers tend to be more traditional. You see almost all of them excitedly change their names upon marriage and use “Mrs.” It’s a throw back vibe. Middle and high schools have a much higher percentage of male teachers and with self-selection by teachers, it’s a different, more current professional vibe. That said, I still make my husband send the email if it’s important. That issue extends beyond schools though. [/quote]

You clearly have not been in an elementary school in the past 5-10 years. Of course, people are excited to get married, but it’s not like they’re just waiting around for their Mrs.[/quote]

I work in one. I didn’t suggest they’re waiting around for it. But it’s the only place in DC area in last 25 years where I’ve seen women insist on you using Mrs. rather than Ms. And some at my school use Miss! I don’t like the standard this sets for the kids with such outsized emphasis on women’s marital status in their professional titles.[/quote]

It's gross, I agree. I have a relative who was so excited about telling her class and parents about her name change before i Had kids; I have now seen the same with my kids' teachers and find it odd[/quote]

You think your cute veiled insults are smart don't you?  I wonder if it is your kid who is the bully of 2nd grade?  Or the 5th grader calling everyone the "n" word?  [/quote]

I don’t see any cute or veiled insults here. And you really think this person would raise a kid who uses that word? Please tell me you’re not a teacher.[/quote]

The insults are around using "Mrs" and changing last names.  And you'd be amazed to know how many parents and kids use the N word on the regular.  I get a front seat from where I sit in my classroom.  [/quote]

I don’t think those are the same GenX parents preferring Ms. to Mrs. on dcurbanmom…. Are you a young teacher?[/quote]

Are you a young mommy?[/quote]

No. But thank you for answering my question.

I’m GenX and have never in 50 years heard a single non-Black friend or colleague or fellow parent utter the N word. I don’t know what they say behind closed doors. But they know I am not someone they could ever say that in front of. [/quote]

They aren’t holding their tongue around you. They just don’t use that word, ever. It’s not about you.[/quote]

I believe that’s true of my close friends. And vast majority of my colleagues and fellow parents. That was my original point. The baby teacher was implying that we, including our children, use that term. That was a despicable and unacceptable allegation and no doubt reflected far more on her community than mine. I was simply trying to deflect the inevitable argument that people say it even if I don’t hear it. But I think it’s strange to assert, like you did, that no one ever uses the word. I try to be more aware that there are likely people who aren’t as they seem and not be in denial of racism. And not speak in absolutes. [/quote]

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