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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would never sacrifice my time/money for my parents like that. This is what hired help is for.[/quote]

Wow. You must not have a good relationship with your parents. I can’t imagine feeling so transactional regarding my parents and would never think of their care in the same way I would hire help to mow the lawn. [/quote]

PP put it bluntly but this is what we do.  None of us live anywhere near our parents any more.  We hire someone to come in a few days a week to help in daily tasks.  We also hire someone else to go to medical appointments with them.  Logistically there's no way we could physically do this.  They have enough money to pay for this and the arrangement works out for everyone.  Yes, we throw money at the problem.  Works for us. [/quote]

If your parents won't move closer to you, then that is all you can do--hire help.  And even if they were closer to you, most are not able to take their parents to every appt, to every grocery trip, etc.  Because we have a life with our own spouse, kids, friends and possibly our own grandkids.  So even then, you might still need to hire help.

IMO, best to hire the help and let everyone live where they want to live.  
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