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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Look if you are going to date or marry someone with kids, you are going to have to accept that this person has a relationship in which you really are not welcome. You can’t expect to always be included or take priority unless you are with a jerk who dumps his/ her kids. You need to go in eyes wide open that your partner will have time and financial obligations or desires toward his or her children that don’t include you. 
OP escalated things by including GF in the family holiday and family vacation. GF is happy that adult daughter doesn’t want any more financial help from father because now it’s hers! OP you landed a bad girlfriend and are giving up a daughter. Good job![/quote]

"Step parents seem to be naive or selfish thinking they can impose on the pre existing parent relationship or dictate control how it goes. This results in partner choosing between his or her original children and the new partner."

Then you are 100% against divorce, right? You are 100% against any widow/widower getting remarried? [/quote]

Not at all. I just think that it only works out if you and your new spouse are very independent, recognize that the other party has pre existing relationships and obligations and respect this. Second marriages are different from first ones, if you can’t handle this then don’t marry a divorcee or widow/widower with kids.[/quote]

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