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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sorry to upset the cowards on this thread, but if you "slow fade" your friend for being flaky, you're a crappy friend yourself.

[b]Tell people what upsets you. Seriously. It's not that hard. [/b]Sneaking out the back door because you've never bothered to acquired confrontation skills makes you the flaky friend: you are flaking on the conversation that obviously needs to happen here. Not saying it's resolvable, but you need to use your words and say "Hey, this is upsetting to me. When you bail after making plans, I feel _______". It's also part of being a good friend to yourself. Advocate for your needs.

The slow fade needs to die the coward's death it deserves, along with "ghosting" and all this other low-integrity nonsense we're slipping into. Do better.[/quote]

It is when they repeatedly back out of plans. Not going to have that conversation over text, sorry. If they can’t bother to show up, I get the message. I’m not worth their time or courtesy.[/quote]

In this case, you're making it about you. Your friend might be in trouble with regards to depression or anxiety. I learned this the hard way.

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Making it about me? Ok, if you say so. I’m so baffled by this idea that I’m to blame for other people’s flakiness. [/quote]

You're not. You're responsible for how you address it, and it's a bit rich to say "if they can't bother to show up" when you're not showing up for yourself and having the chat you need to have. Your "Not going to have that conversation over text, sorry" excuse is weak, and suggests they're "not worth (your) time or courtesy" either.

That's the part you're responsible for.[/quote]

Exactly.

You would not have a convo like this over text, and you are acting like there is no other way to have the conversation.

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