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[quote=Anonymous]I had no parents from early teens. Horribly abusive father abandoned us (thankfully) and mother was a hopeless addict.

On my own since age 18. I was a national level athlete and paid my own way to two excellent schools. Successful, but intensively competitive and achieved beyond my ability. Put a huge premium on mental toughness.

Got married to a non athlete from a scholarly Jewish background. I did little but spoil my daughters. They did admire my competitiveness although they were not nearly as intense, which I welcomed. One went to Princeton, the other on a completely full academic ride to Michigan (Shipman Scholars). They both have launched very well. I did not hover. I let them choose colleges, did not obsess like DCUMers do, and told them I would pay for whatever they chose, along with a car and vacations and travel. Implied but never really spoken was that they would be great students and that was their end of the bargain. I am not sure I did anything but apply the right kind of small dose parenting. My kids were bright and self motivated. My twin brother and I were the only educated people in my family and while my kids are humble they clearly wanted to avoid the fate of my parents and relatives. I might add that while I did not hover I had thousands of books, and both kids joke I gave them a non fiction habit! [/quote]

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