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[quote=Anonymous]Let's get back to the facts of OP's situation:

1. Adult daughter is introduced to GF at an introductory dinner. All seems to go well as evidenced by...
2. Daughter then accepts invitation to stay at beach house with father and GF during the summer. 
3. Daughter is invited for Thanksgiving but now refuses all contact.

That's a total of 2. Two identified instances where daughter and girlfriend spent time together.

Why are so many of you extrapolating this and saying the daughter is being forced to spend time with someone she doesn't want to? That she deserves to have time with her father alone?

Where does it say that she HASN'T had that? Is everyone assuming that the father isn't doing anything one-on-one with daughter?

Would your opinion change if OP had come back on here and clarified by telling us he had ALSO taken his daughter on a couple of weekend trips, just the two of them? That he met her for lunch/dinner alone every couple of weeks?

I'd wager that the opinions still wouldn't change.

The simple reason that the majority of kids have a visceral, instinctive loyalty bind with their biological mothers. Any woman who seems to take her place in the father's life will not be welcome. Period.

Oh, and for those of you who say adult kids come first, when exactly does that end? I know of a woman who is in her 60s and STILL hasn't accepted her father's wife, who he has been married to 40 years.

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