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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There’s a 99% chance that this wouldn’t be happening if you didn’t have a gf, amirit?  She wants a relationship with you that excludes the gf.  Not sure how healthy that is for your relationship.[/quote]

Seriously? I most families I know of parents still see their adult children without the adult child's significant other, even sometimes once adult child is engaged or married. It is not an unreasonable request. There are even families with destructive sibling dynamics and parents see those siblings separately. He should be able to carve out time to see his adult daughter for lunch without his girlfriend assuming he has a healthy/not codependent/not enmeshed relationship with his girlfriend. This should not be a big deal.[/quote]

Where do you get the notion that the father isn’t carving out time to see his daughter sans gf?  This situation sounds more like the daughter wants zero contact with the gf vs. a healthy mix of solo contact/couple contact.[/quote]

Because we keep saying see daughter without gf and the response is why? Would u say the same about SO? Etc.

And the answer is because that is what normal mature relationships look like. Your significant other should not feel left out if you go have lunch with your daughter by yourself. Or if you go skiing with your daughter without your significant other. Or you go to the beach with your daughter without the significant other. Or you visit your daughter in the city she lives in without bringing your significant other.

This should not be complicated.

In normal healthy families spouses see their children without the other spouse all the time. In normal healthy families, parents see children without all the siblings around all the time.

Formulate a one on one relationship with your daughter. Make sure it’s extremely strong. Don’t force her to have a relationship with your significant other, other than being kind to her when she is around.[/quote]

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