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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, I am Asian-American and most of us find the standard white American practice of making new mother and father do everything with 0 help extremely odd.

Post-partum mothers have just gone through a physically draining event and they need to be cherished and taken care of, not expected to be “on” all the time. Fathers, too, need time to adjust to working while taking care of a newborn + older siblings who may have complicated feelings about the baby. This is a natural time for grandparents or other family members to step in and make sure everyone gets the rest and attention they need. Unfortunately, not everyone has family who is willing/able to do that, and that’s when you hire help.

OP, I think you need to hang out with more Asian-Americans :-)[/quote]

I am the chinese-american poster above and I agree. We do not do baby showers typically before birth and there is no emphasis on all the silly "stuff" people give here for babies. Instead, the focus is on caring for the mom and helping with the actual care of the child so mom can recover. Families will step in to care for the mom/baby, or if they cannot do it, I have seen modern Chinese families get together to pay for a high-quality Chinese night nurse who also helps care for the mom or an infant nanny.[/quote]

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