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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wife's father died four years ago, her mother died 6 months later. The estate was large and included a big house in upper NW, a simple beach house in NC and a 2 bed Co-Op in Grammercy Park.

She has a brother (childless) living in Seattle. We are here in DC and have 3 kids. Neither my wife nor her brother wanted the NY apartment or the DC house. We wanted the NC beach house. He didn't, despite spending many summers there as a boy.

He was fine to have the proceeds of the sale of the other two properties distributed accordingly so we could have the beach house. Basically, we took ~$400,000 less than he did during the sales and called the beach house ours. Everyone was happy.

Now, he is dating a woman that is, ironically, from eastern NC; although, she lives in Seattle. She has a 20 yo son from a previous marriage living in NC. Long story short- my BIL has offered this kid and his frat brothers our beach house for the summer. We have never even met him.  I told him no before I even spoke with my wife. Later, when I told my wife, she elevated it to a "hell no".

Now he's fuming and accusing us of 'taking' his 'childhood beach house'

How do you even begin to address an asshat like this?[/quote]

You asked how you address an asshat like this. The answer is, you don’t. Sounds like he didn’t even ask you before he offered, and when he informed you about it, you told him no. Let him fume.

From your other posts, I assume that in addition to no legal rights to the house, he also doesn’t have physical access (no key or door code). If he has those things I’d suggest changing the locks or the code, just so you’re not surprised by uninvited guests. Otherwise there is nothing for you to do but hold the line.

Hopefully he’ll realize he’s being an asshat and calm down. If he doesn’t, well that sucks, but honestly I’d rather end the relationship with my brother (who has responsible sons in college that I have known all their lives that I still wouldn’t let summer in any property I own) than agree to something as outrageous as this. [/quote]

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