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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Love this conversation.  I think there are a lot of confounding reasons but I hate the positive narrative of estranging from family.

I feel like sometimes people are in a competition for whose trauma is worst.  Really enjoyed the book the Power of Being Disliked and its discussion of denying trauma.

Another idea to add would be the role of women as kinkeepers.  Women don't have the same ability or desire to continue to be the kinkeepers for both themselves and their husband.  [/quote]

Yes.   People and their boundaries are out of control.    There was one post where the MIL told the family that her son and dil were having a baby.   They told her not to tell everyone and now they are estranged.   I mean who cares?   What kind of petty small minded people need to control an ordinary announcement.

Some people do have shitty parents, no doubt.   But so many young people have zero tolerance and are so rigid that they can’t just let harmless things go.  So the MIL told family members about a pregnancy.   No harm done so just let it go already.  [/quote]

Realistically, I’m sure there were many other things this MIL did that built up over time, and this was just the breaking point. People don’t stop talking to someone over one thing alone. [/quote]

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