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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, thanks for your care and concern for your friend.  What a sad situation for her.  With no home to go back to, no family to help, no benefits here...she is lucky she is not entirely alone.

It breaks my heart to read all the inhumane and unkind replies here.  If you have family, health, benefits, a safety net: you are LUCKIER than this woman.  You are not more deserving.

There but for the grace of God go I, so they say.  Or theee but for the sheer luck of how and where I was born, go I.[/quote]
You are not alone in being horrified at the lack of empathy or the awareness of good fortune displayed in this thread.[/quote]

You are very mightier than thou and assuming plenty of things yourself.

I haven't seen anyone in this thread gloating or not being willing to acknowledge their privilege. On the other had, I have seen people be quite factual about how strained resources are for people who have been paying into the system and will likely never recoup that themselves. They might get marginal assistance, but not enough.

And again, not gloating, but factually -- this was not an unforeseen problem. Was there no plan at all, other than to assume someone(s) else would have to help?[/quote]
People have directly stated they have no empathy. Someone suggested shipping her to Canada for assisted suicide (that’s not how it works FYI, but the cruel intention was there). [b]I highly doubt any of you making these callous remarks are doing anything to help suffering Americans either.[/b][/quote]

You couldn't be more wrong.

Have YOU done years of volunteer work with the elderly? Gone to nursing facilities? Visited elderly in their homes? Brought them meals, helped them with hygiene and house cleaning? Advocated with local elected officials for better services?

At a minimum, have you gone out and purchased items needed by your local, poor elderly and donated them - even small things like lotions, hygiene items, maybe a couple of word puzzle books?

If you have not then why not? In 2025, will you pledge to call your local Agency on Aging and offer your time?

If not, perhaps look at your own callousness. There is significant need for the poor elderly in this country. Put up or shut up.  [/quote]

Agree with this. People don’t get compassion points because they feel sad about something, they need to do something or else they are just as “callous” as everyone else.[/quote]

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