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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You and he both need to read some books and/or take a class. A book like No Bad Kids can be read in one afternoon. Just do that to get going.

Most toddler misbehavior is attributable to either not having had enough physical activity or being hungry or tired, off schedule, etc. [/quote]

is this really true?? if so I have a defective kid. Most days, barring interruptions to our daily routine, he is well-fed (healthy and well-balanced), very well exercised, well-slept (he sleeps 11 hours at night, 2 hour naps most days), and very well-engaged between preschool and home. But the misbehavior is constant. [/quote]

Really constant?  Or are you exaggerating?  Constant misbehavior is not developmentally typical and there is probably an issue.  But occasional misbeahvior sprinkled throughout the day is developmentally normal because they are still learning how to behave and do not have good impulse control. Your job is to correct, impose reasonable natural ckmseiquences for behavior and keep your cool.[/quote]

Sure, not every minute we're around him. But every transition. Every time he has to get dressed or get a diaper change. Every meal time. Almost every time he's going in and out of car seats. Etc. [/quote]
You really need to read some parenting books or take a PeP class.  There are ways to deal with this — no magic bullets but things that will gradually help.  The two biggest are warnings and choice.  Eg—in 3 minutes, we will need to put down the toys and get dressed.  In two minutes, we will need to get dressed.  In one minute, we will need to get dressed.  Okay. It’s just about time to get dressed — do you want the blue shirt or the red shirt today?  Do you want to put Teddy on the bed or on leave him on the floor?  (This won’t work exactly but that’s the idea.  For them, each transition is surprising. And wildly disruptive to their internal life.[/quote]

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