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1. It's good that you know not to criticize - you will only push her into his arms. You are wise.

2. Brilliant people usually need non-brilliant partners, OP. All the brilliant people closest to me (my husband, my cousin, my daughter), have their best relationships with people with lower IQs than their stratospheric ones; and who have better emotional control and maturity. It's no wonder at all that she could not live with her brilliant but immature ex. My husband is older than me but is less mature and quite volatile. I am the steady hand at the rudder, with a much higher emotional quotient than his.

3. It's hard to watch your adult children make mistakes and have no control. Best of luck navigating this next part of their lives.[/quote]

Thank you for this kind post, PP. and for your empathy. It is so hard to see my DD shrinking to fit herself to this man. She is still young and has a lot of growing to do. She is off to a great start with an extremely promising career and mentors who encourage and support her. Her BF has none of that. I fear he will stifle her, unintentionally, but his very presence in her life seems already to clip her wings. She seems less imaginative, funny, engaged with the world of ideas that she used to love. I miss the old her. [/quote]

That is alarming but is it due to her sensing your rejection of him and feeling stuck in the middle?[/quote]

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