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Op - yes she likes fruit and pasta. Pretty much no protein other than chicken nuggets (gross) and bacon. Sometimes rice. Other than that she likes snacks. I try and limit those as much as possible. She just is getting such horrible nutrition I am worried! No vegetables at all! I try and make her eat them and she gags. [/quote]

I am the Satter poster, and I missed this.

I don't know whether she's school age, but I'm going to imagine all your kids are school aged kids who packs lunch, and come home right after school.

I would start with structure.  So, make sure that you're sitting down together at the table and eating together for breakfast, an after school snack and dinner each day.  If your schedule makes dinner early (e.g. you eat dinner and then go to soccer practice) then maybe an additional snack before bed.   The kitchen is closed, except for water, outside those times.

Then put out several foods that together make something of a cohesive meal, and that includes 1 or 2 things she'll eat, and put them out on the table, and let her choose a combination that works for her.  Don't comment on what she eats or doesn't eat, don't offer alternatives not on the table, just put it out, let her eat her fill of one or more things, and then clear the table.  I'd also establish some rules.  One thing that made a difference for quality of our life as a family is that there's no complaining about food at the table, and no commenting on what other people eat.  We don't do any kind of consequences for eating or not eating, other than natural consequences of feeling fuller or hungrier during the interval between meals and snacks, but I'm happy to implement a consequence for telling me the food I made is gross, or for whining.

I would also change up combinations.  So, instead of thinking of pancakes and bacon as the one "meal" she likes, maybe one day you serve bacon and toast, or pancakes and scrambled eggs, and maybe you make the pancakes and scrambled eggs breakfast for dinner, and that day you serve yogurt with fruit on the side for breakfast, even if she'll just eat the fruit.

You also really have to be OK with her eating just one food.  So, if dinner is pasta, with some delicious sauce on the side, and roasted broccoli, and all she eats is pasta.  That's fine.  In the short term it won't hurt her, and you're playing a long game here.  If breakfast is yogurt and berries on the side, and she just eats berries, that's fine too.  If she has a fit because it's yogurt and berries and she wants pancakes and bacon, that's fine too.  She can have a fit and go to school hungry, and then tomorrow you'll calmly serve something else.

I would pack a lunch that contains a couple foods that she's likely to eat.

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