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[quote=Anonymous]Op, I had my fair share of unhealthy relationships for far too long. Not all addicts but…the common denominator was me. I focused so much on solving their problems, rescuing “brilliant”  men with “potential” while ignoring what everyone else could see so plainly. Took lots of therapy and unpacking my early life (borderline needy/waif mentally ill
mother; distant, genius, hot/cold father, no nurturing childhood) to see that I was attracted to catastrophes because if I could fix them, maybe I could fix myself , etc etc.

I can guess why you can’t see him the way the rest of us do. You want to believe in his potential, his love, with the right person he could flourish etc…but I also think you do know, deep down inside, that you can’t save him and that you deserve better but you also feel deeply conflicted. The conflict is within you. Even feeling terrible about braki you is you assuming a kind of responsibility for his emotional well being that is not necessary.

You deserve a healthy relationship with a well adjusted , healthy, normal man who loves you for who you are. [/quote]

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