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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wife almost died during childbirth. Things looked bleak. I had about 24 hours to think about what I was going to do. I had pretty much made up my mind I wasn't going keep her, so much of that was debating whether I would simply leave them at the hospital for CPS or turn them over a family member. I wanted to the former to let her start life from a clean slate, preferably never learning about her traumatic birthday, but pretty much concluded I'd have to do the latter.

And while I was convinced, at the time at least, that was the right discusion, I also didn't expect I'd be able to live with myself. So I planned my suicide, too.

Obviously I don't know what I actually would have done if my wife didn't evenctually pull through, but I do know I would never judge whatever decision someone makes in that situation.[/quote]

If I'm understanding correctly you had to make the decision between an unborn child and your wife's life.

This guy had his child for at least a year, by the time the adoption took place longer. Different situation. He didn't want the responsibility of taking care of his own child.[/quote]

No, the child was born healthy, but my wife's condition continued to deteriorate. She wasn't expected to survive.[/quote]

How do you feel about this line of thinking now that you (presumably) have bonded with your child? Do you ever think about what you would have missed out on?

I’m surprised that the instinct would be to adopt out the child, which is your last link to your spouse you loved enough to make a baby with.

Glad she lived and it worked out for you though.[/quote]

It continues to get more complicated from there. The child, while born healthy, has significant special needs. One person would not be able to both act as the caregiver and work to provide financial support.

Knowing that now, and not really having a way to forget that, I definitely think it would have been the right move.[/quote]

This guy that adopted out their child was solely to get rid of the responsibility. No, he didn't have any addictions.

The child didn't have any special needs either. [/quote]

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