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They "handled it all" for you on the front end from when you were born to age 18 (and maybe longer) and now that you're a fully capable adult you have to repay them for a much shorter period of time. Poor you!
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Repayment goes by taking care of your own kids, not cleaning out tons of s* that has been sitting somewhere for 40 years! You should face your s* yourself, or are all the memories so unpleasant you cannot put your hand to them?!
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Taking care of your own kids does not “repay” your parents for anything. That’s something you did for yourself. I’m going to keep what I want to keep to make my life pleasant and enjoyable, as is my right, even though my kids won’t want much if any of it.

I’ve cleaned out two full sized houses of parental stuff while feeling sad and while having kids under five. It was hard work but so what. I do not wish I could go back in time and scold and hector them like a jerk - “hey you’re gonna die soon, could you please get rid of all your sh*t, thx”. When they were alive I focused on enjoying the remaining time with them not being a selfish d!ck.[/quote]

You can choose to be a martyr.  The rest of us are choosing not to.[/quote]

lol decluttering your parents house is the farthest thing from martyrdom. Your life must be super soft and sheltered if making some trips to Goodwill is like being burned at the stake or fed to the lions to you.[/quote]

If it was just a matter of some tirps to goodwill on a weekend, you did not have to declutter much at all. That's a weekend project.[/quote]

It took two weeks of twelve hour days to declutter a three story house with 40 years of hoarded stuff (plus three additional storage units also full of useless garbage) but it was still not “martyrdom” and I’m not in here crying like a baby about it.[/quote]

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