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[quote=Anonymous]I cannot help but think this is a parenting issue and your child’s attitude / temperament. Regardless of his chronological age, he has not completed 12 years of school and had the life experience that comes with that.

It’s not about how many days you have been alive, it’s what you have been exposed to and experienced to prepare you for independence. I have a summer BD who could have been reshirted, but was not. I also have a fall BD kid who is the oldest in his class despite starting on time.

My fall kid has friends and sports teammates  who are 2-3 months older, but a grade ahead of him. They are more mature and independent because they literally have an extra year of formal school, 2 more seasons playing the sport, and they are generally treated as older. In some ways it evens out as kids get older, but at each age / stage there are new freedoms and new life skills that come from how society at large treats your rather than the number of days you have existed on the planet.

I had a birthday 6 days before the cutoff and was literally the youngest in my graduating class, starting college at barely 18. I was more mature, independent, and capable of “adulting” than a lot of 19 -20 yr olds because I had very hands off, free-range parents who treated my last year at home as a trial run for college. I also grew up in a college town so I had the benefit of having friends 1-2 years older who were in college and living in dorms and group houses in the same town as their parents. If your kids are so ready to be independent, let them, with the safety net of having you there in case they screw up. Then they really will be ready to thrive next year. It’s not just about getting to go where they want or do what they want - they need to practice buying groceries, getting an oil change, making a Dr appointment, paying a cell phone bill - and other real life skills. [/quote]

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