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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents divorced when I was 10. Once I got my license, I stopped the midweek visits to my dad’s house. We’d meet for dinner on “his” night, and I would spend every other weekend at dad’s house, but it was too hard to get school in the morning, and to take things back and forth.

Our weekly dinners continued when I came home from college. As an adult, I feel like I have a good relationship with my dad (and my mom).

But by 16, I was also working PT and had friends and a boyfriend and activities like a normal teenager. It wasn’t like I was spending a ton of time with my mom, and no time with my dad. Even though I was sleeping at my mom’s house on weeknights, she wasn’t getting a windfall of parenting time.

So OP, maybe something like that would work for your family: have your ex try a midweek dinner.

And if your kid is not already, get them involved in something that regularly gets them out of the house.[/quote]

This has to be the norm, especially by age 16. It's perfectly normal for kids to start asserting their independence over where they want to sleep once they have a license, job, and car. 16-year-olds generally care a lot more about their friends, their academic obligations, their sports, and their social calendar than spending time with either parent. They'll stay wherever is most convenient for them.  It's rarely a reflection of which parent they like better.  [/quote]

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