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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, I’m a SN mom and I can’t believe the responses you’re getting here. OP, thank you for being kind and supporting this friendship and this young child.

Some reasons they might not have told you:

In kids this age, diagnoses are often in flux. Different providers disagree. Parents are trying to tease out what seems right. There are a million theories and protocols and it’s overwhelming.

A lot of parents will be cruel, will decide the end the friendship, will judge, will talk behind our backs.

It’s an emotionally fraught journey to accept that one’s child has SN and even a simple playdate requires so much planning and strategy. It’s sad, exhausting, and challenges a lifetime of assumptions.

Thank you for giving this child and her family so much grace. Now you know what the “hacks” were for this time. Now, keep in mind that kids change so fast and that’s equally true for SN kids. Those same things might not work next time. But I would gently ask before you host again. Something like this: “I realized last time that Anna really wanted to eat X. Should I plan for that again? What else can I do to make sure she has a good time?”[/quote]

Thank you, PP. I really like how you expressed this and will
Use this specific wording. When I asked last time she was here, it seemed to be met with “well, she’s not normally so picky”, when child told me herself that she only eats x. I know that the parents are likely trying to be gracious, but it actually causes more issues only because I can’t help effectively. Like I said, I’ll go get the right brand of snack and whatever so kid can come here worry free and just have fun. But I can’t know what I don’t know. [/quote]

why don't you just ask the child herself? [/quote]

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