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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Something like this happened when my parents split and I was the college student. For a long time my mother was incandescent with rage and really hard to be around. I didn’t know about the affair until she moved in with my dad. In the interim he was much easier to be around. Therapy is a good idea. [/quote]

This is interesting because I feel like a bore the brunt of my dad's affair because my mom was so unpleasant to be around. She would get irritated at me a lot in ways that were not fair.

Ie, I was a high achieving high school student who would stay up late doing homework and come down in the morning and want to just sit groggily and eat my cereal. She would get pissed I was not chatty Cathy and start criticizing me for not talking with her enough when I was still half asleep. She was just angry and irritated and unpleasant to be around.

Tell her the truth, but don't take it out on her and don't be mad if she was to see her dad. Don't expect her to take sides.

She is an adult. You don't get to decide for her that she goes to have Thanksgiving at your friend's without her dad. She may want to spend Thanksgiving, or part of Thanksgiving, with him, and that is ok.[/quote]
Your mother was hurting and probably trying to hold it together as best as she could. You should realize that now with the benefit of age and hopefully some maturity. [/quote]

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