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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The lies have become so elaborate there are fourth graders that still believe in Santa, flying reindeer and magical stuffed elves.  Lol, it isn’t for the kids at that point.[/quote]

And? Who does it hurt for fourth graders to believe in magic? I never told my kids any “elaborate lies,” and answered their questions with things like, “hmm, what do you think?”  Most kids will gradually figure it out over time, but many still like to play along and pretend. I certainly never told my parents I knew, but at some point of course they knew I did. But it was still fun. [/quote]
This is similar to what my parents did and what I have done. [b]We are a “if you don’t believe you don’t receive” [/b]family. Instead of this big sad moment of finding out Santa is not “real,” there’s just a gradual transition. Everyone still enjoys the rituals, cookies and notes for Santa, magic carrots and oats for the reindeer. It’s very sweet to find that your YA or teen has filled a stocking or snuck a Santa gift for you. [/quote]

that's so messed up[/quote]
I have a feeling you just want to be ugly, but to clarify, if you don’t believe, yiou don’t receive [b]from Santa.[/b] You’re not excluded from anything and still receive gifts from everyone else. This has only happened once with a teen who noped out one year.[/quote]

That still doesn't seem very fun and kind-spirited to me. But I didn't grow up with Santa my only  knowledge of Santa is from TV and movies and it always seemed fun,  the reality  seems less so it seems toxic and competitive[/quote]

It sounds like the tag say from Mom & Dad instead of Santa and you think this is a huge problem or toxic and competitive? Really?[/quote]

Yes I do. It just seems mean, as have the other replies in this thread from people who do Santa[/quote]

Only because you’re not very smart or intentionally misunderstanding. The socks say “From Mom” instead of “From Santa”. Explain how that’s mean? Either way mom bought the socks. A non believer already knows that. Did you think Santa was real or something?[/quote]

It just seems like singling out, ANd no as I said I didn't grow up raised to believe in Santa my knowledge of Santa comes from movies and TV and those always seemed more focused of fun, and magic and kindness [/quote]
Santa is fun, magical, and kind. My family embraces the myth and continues the rituals. Instead of a heartbreaking SANTA IS NOT REAL moment, everyone is free to continue enjoying, but they also aren’t forced. So one year, one teen said he didn’t believe in Santa. Ok. Fine. His gifts came from the family, he chose not to participate in a couple of things we do- a silly magic reindeer dance wherein I “magically” make glitter appear in oats to help the reindeer fly, and he didn’t write a letter to Santa. Everyone was happy. Everyone is happy.

You really need to calm down. You keep repeating how you have no knowledge of Santa outside of movies and TV. There is no single right or wrong way to do Santa. Families have different traditions and that’s perfectly fine as well. Families handle Santa differently as kids get older. This is also perfectly fine. [/quote]

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