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[quote=Anonymous]I’m the opposite. I was raised in a very conservative, traditional family. While I did go to college, it was more about being educated so I could find a decent man. I was taught to not worry too much about a career since I would marry a man with money and stay home anyway. I also missed out on a lot of fun 20s experiences, like parties, going out, and travelling, because “good girls” don’t do those things and decent men would see it as a red flag if I was going out to bars and having fun with girl friends.

I did marry the guy, but the marriage ended in my mid-30s. So it’s been 5 years of scrambling to get a career, learning about money (I was always told not to worry my pretty little head about finances), all while raising 2 kids.

I desperately wished I had prioritized a career in my 20s so I wouldn’t be in this situation now. Things are finally stabilizing and I’m making decent money, but it’s been so hard. And I REALLY wish I had spent more time having fun in my 20s - since I’m so far behind financially, I’ll probably never really get to travel or spend money on frivolous things.

I really wish I had been shown the reality of both sides - that neither are perfect, both have their pros and cons. I was sold that getting married and having kids was the highest thing I could do, and it just wasn’t. [/quote]

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