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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are many countries that do not have the belief that parents must spend all their free time engaging in organized and structured activities outside the home to be good parents. Lots of kids grow up just fine playing outside and riding bikes and playing make believe etc.

I don’t think he is wrong for not wanting to spend every evening and weekend out doing organized kid sports / activities / extracurricular. Personally I see nothing wrong with kids just playing at home or outside in the yard or a park. Especially if he grew up with different cultural norms. I read the threads on here how parents never eat with their kids and can’t get their elementary school kids to bed before 10 and eat food in the car driving between activities and I would hate that life. I am sure many think I am a horrible parent as we don’t do that and my kids play outside but oh well. I am team DH. I like relaxing. Zero interest in living in a 24/7 hamster wheel where free time or down time is frowned upon.[/quote]

Op here. Soccer isn’t 247. It’s two months out of the year. We tried the playing in the neighborhood thing but it’s not working well. Our older son was complaining he doesn’t know how to play soccer at recess and gets made fun of so I decided to sign him up. He LOVES soccer. Given that I am pregnant dh needs to step up and drive him to practice when he can. Dh was in agreement about cub scouts and told me he did it growing up. Once he learned about the camping/ cabin trips he decided he doesn’t want to be involved anymore. He will agree to stuff but later complains we are too busy. He thinks weekends should be relaxing. It’s not fair to our kids to be watched by the tv most of the weekend so he can nap. In the evening he’ll take them out but max 1 hour. Usually it’s 30 mins. We don’t live in a neighborhood where they can roam around freely. It’s not safe and he agreed about that. Given all of this our kid would benefit so much from 1 activity a season. I don’t want our child to not have friends one day at school and that’s what seems to be happening. He feels he doesn’t fit in because he’s not athletic. We have been to the playground and overheard his classmates refusing to let him play whatever sports game because they say he won’t know how. Boys need to be active. I feel for my kid and want him to be happy and have friends. 
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Why on earth are you having a third?[/quote]

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