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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kids are smart and athletic kids. Everything comes to them easily BUT they do not put forth maximum effort, ever. As a result, my dd is a decent runner only, despite having the potential to be a fantastic runner. She shows up to practice, does her thing, but doesn't push herself. She gives it 70%. It's the same thing with school: getting them to take any APs is like pulling teeth, and they so far refused the hard ones, despite doing very well in the APs they do take. They know it is going to affect college, we have pushed, explained and got nowhere. They just don't want to work hard. Do you think this is just personality or that I should push them harder even? [/quote]

Do you want a relationship with your children when they are adults?  If not, keep pushing.  They will run away so far from you!  
If you do want a relationship back the F off.   How do you even know they aren't giving it their all?
Who are you?  Why aren't you famous if you were successfully pushed? Of maybe you weren't and blamed your parents?

You are mentally unwell[/quote]

You seem unhinged. Many parents don't push because they are lazy, self-absorbed, checked out or prefer to be friends with the children.

I was listening to some music on YouTube the other day, and there was a comment there along the lines of "I wish my parents forced me to play the piano when I was young". The comment was liked by something like 12,000 people. [/quote]

Do you understand sarcasm. You think every asian kid is on tour somewhere and posting their amazing videos to You Tube because their parents forced them to play an instrument?[/quote]

Not sure what you are talking about (who is posting the videos?) but I sure met several adults who were upset their parents didn't make them play an instrument as children. They imagine playing to be more fun than it often is, I think, but, regardless: if you are parenting with the goal that, once grown, your children won't have any objections to your pushing and not pushing, you are the biggest fool of all.[/quote]

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